Soft Landing Divorce Podcast 🇨🇦

Mastering BIFF Response: Staying Positive in Tough Conversations During Divorce

Discover how the BIFF response can transform challenging conversations with ex-partners into productive exchanges, especially in high-conflict divorce proceedings and co-parenting relationships. This powerful communication tool for hostility helps you respond to hostile comments by maintaining boundaries, acknowledging feelings, and providing constructive feedback—ultimately protecting your mental health and leading to better outcomes in divorce. Learn to pause before responding, show empathy, and disengage from toxic conversations to navigate divorce with dignity and model better communication for the next generation.

Key Takeaways

• Master the BIFF response to shift negative or hostile comments into positive, constructive feedback, helping you control your reaction and steer tough conversations during divorce toward productive outcomes.
• Stay calm by taking a deep breath and pausing before responding, allowing you to acknowledge feelings, show empathy, and maintain boundaries in challenging conversations with ex-partners or during custody arrangements.
• Practice disengaging from toxic conversations to protect mental health, build self-awareness, and foster better co-parenting relationships, especially in uncontested divorces or written communication like emails and text messages.
• Use the BIFF response as a strategic tool to respond to hostility, promote learning to listen, and achieve better outcomes in divorce by breaking cycles and modeling positive communication skills.

Featuring

Ken Maynard is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and an Accredited Family Mediator who has been guiding couples through the Divorce Industrial Complex of separation and divorce since 2010. He helps families across Ontario and beyond by delivering mediation through secure virtual conferencing. Using his Soft Landing Divorce Settlement Method, Ken offers a structured, compassionate, and cost-effective alternative to the traditional adversarial approach. His process prioritizes collaboration over conflict, enabling clients to reach sustainable, amicable agreements—often in four meetings or fewer. With nearly two decades of experience, Ken blends deep financial insight with mediation expertise to provide real-world guidance for families navigating one of life’s most difficult transitions—while avoiding unnecessary legal battles.
Sarah Bates, Certified Divorce Specialist and the no-nonsense guide behind Naked Divorce Filer by DTSW. With over a decade in family law and a background as a freelance law clerk, Sarah helps clients cut through legal confusion to file uncontested divorces quickly and affordably. She’s passionate about making the process clear, human, and drama-free—no lawyers required. At Naked Divorce Filer at DTSW, she’s the calm, capable partner clients trust to simplify paperwork, explain next steps, and keep things moving. Sarah believes divorce shouldn’t be a battle—it should be a reset. Her mission? To help people move on with dignity, clarity, and confidence.

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